#ESMEINK : "Age of Loneliness" Day 13
This one is deep for me. I believe we live in the age of loneliness. I don't care how many Facebook friends I do, or do not have. What I care about, are my real interactive, meaningful relationships. I'm working hard to build them. Real, live conversations feed me lately. I've come a long way from being a very shy kid. I force myself to hold conversations lately, to work on my self expression and confidence. I work hard to build the clan of my dreams. It's even harder to let go of relationships that don't serve me. Seriously, it's F'n hard! So, when I read this quote (below) today, there are a couple of lines that really stand out. Truthfully, they all stand out. But if I were to take each paradox, and try to write about them all, I'd be up for nights on end.
I feel sad knowing that while some people may seem to have a busy life because of their number of facebook friends and instagram followers, it is possible that they are living in a cyber nightmare. Where real relationships cease to exist, and the fear to be out in public is intense because social anxiety is real for them. Insecurities have been created out of false advertising-false women and men-a competition to gain the most friends on facebook-pressure to date or "hook up". Wondering if these virtual relationships actually mean anything at all. Obsessing over the "friend list number." What thoughts cross that person's mind, when the friend list goes from 875 to 874.
It breaks my heart. There is so much good that has come with the power of connection through technology, yet it still fails some.
I'm not intending to say everyone is lonely. Only that some are. And usually, it's someone we would least expect it from.
If you feel lonely tonight, don't, because my thoughts are with you. This journal is for you. Whoever you are, wherever you are. Reach out. Someone wants you to.
Love, and light.
THE PARADOX OF OUR AGE
"We have bigger houses, but smaller families;
More conveniences, but less time;
We have more degrees, but less sense;
More knowledge, but less judgement;
More experts, but more problems;
More medicines, but less healthiness;
We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet the new neighbour.
We built more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but have less communication.
We have become long on quantity,
but short on quality.
These are times of fast food
but slow digestion;
Tall man but short character;
Steep profits but shallow relationships,
It's a time when there is much in the window, but nothing in the room."
#ESMEINK Journal Entry by Lise-Marie Johnson